Neo Boys: a groundbreaking all-woman punk band from 1978. Portland’s first all-woman rockband.
The Neo Boys had a strong pop energy, but Kim’s voice was never too sweet. KT wove her basslines around Pat’s solid beat, while Jennifer played a twangy, clean guitar. None of their songs were about boys, they had more personal, political, and table-turning things to sing about.
Went to Tacocat last night and Boyfriends opened for them. They covered a Neo Boys song and we talked about it for a long time after the show! Rad rad rad boys.
In 9th grade I was a smarty/weird who was afraid of everything, especially sex.
Not much has changed.
I went to a sober dance party at Jeremy’s house, and actually ventured to dance, which seems impossible to me now, but I remember it happening.
I remember dancing to “Let’s Go Crazy.” I was enjoying the song. I owned the album, and I had studied the lyrics.
I was dancing alone, but in proximity to two girls, who were dancing together. Yelling over the music, one of the girls expressed astonishment that the song was so dirty.
I stopped us all from dancing at that moment. I had something to explain.
“No,” I said. “You’re wrong. The lyric is not, as you seem to believe, “Please come.” The lyric is “He’s coming.”
I paused. “He’s coming,” I said. “Referring to Dr. Everything’s Gonna Be All Right. From earlier in the song. So you don’t have to worry about the song being about sex.”
That was my good news for them.
They looked at me in the exact way I deserved to be looked at in that moment. With a mixture of incredulity and pity.
And I realized three fundamental truths at the exact same time.
(That’s a line I just wrote myself out of my own brain.)
1) Duh. They wanted the song to be dirty.
2) That song is TOTALLY DIRTY.
3) It is not fatal and even fun to listen to dirty things and enjoy the transgression of such things, and maybe even get a little dirty yourself (one day!)
I didn’t dance for the rest of the dance party, because I had to sit down and let my brain rearrange itself around this new knowledge.
And so I just want to say thank you to Prince, for everything obviously, but especially for fostering my sexual awakening, and demonstrating so early in my life the evils of mansplaining, and for teaching me to never stop the dancing.
Today’s news is beyond horrible, so I thought I’d share a funny Prince memory. 4th grade, last day of school, “Bring a Record to School Day.” Every student in Mrs. Rogers’ class got to play a song. Some dum-dum throws on “Darling Nikki.” All of look up like, “WHAT ARE YOU DOING??” Sure enough, when the “masturbating with a magazine” line came on, Mrs. Rogers TORE the record off the turntable and yelled “What IS this?!!”
I’m so sad you’re gone, Prince, but this memory makes me laugh. Rest in Purple.
In a recent interview withNew York Magazine, James Franco openly discusses his views on sexuality, claiming that—despite never having had sex with men or even presumably being sexually attracted to them—he considers himself “a little gay.” The admission confirms what many have long suspected about the actor, but now it’s official: James Franco has come out as “a little” annoying.
“There is a bit of over-focusing on my sexuality, both by the straight press and the gay press,” Franco said in the interview promoting his new, irritating book of poetry, Straight James/Gay James. One would imagine Franco raised the issue so he could finally clear the air on the subject, perhaps coming out as straight, gay, bisexual, or simply saying that it’s not something he feels the need to discuss because it’s a private matter. But instead, James Franco bravely embraced his identity as a fiercely proud, fairly obnoxious person, finally comfortable in his annoying skin.
“If your definition of gay and straight is who I sleep with, then I guess you could say I’m a gay cock-tease,” said Franco, confirming that, after a few beers, he’s a little more open to being a terrible person to run into at a party.
Treasury Secretary Jack Lew will announce on Wednesday that Harriet Tubman, the prominent abolitionist, will replace former President and slaveowner Andrew Jackson on the front of the $20 bill, according to a report from Politico.
even if you get along great with your family you will get along even better with them after moving out
generic is almost always just as good as name brand. But there are some things you never buy generic, including: peanut butter, ketchup, liquid NyQuil, Chips-Ahoy chewy chocolate chip cookies
just imagine the person on the other end of the phone hates talking on the phone as much as you do. Even a receptionist. I worked as one and I hate talking on the phone
at least once in your life you will go to Wal-mart to buy something under $20 like an ironing board or something and your debit card will get rejected. No one will judge. Everyone at some point in their lives has had $2.98 in their bank account.
everyone else is too busy panicking about everyone else noticing every tiny thing that could possibly be wrong about them to notice any tiny thing that could possibly be wrong about you
you will screw up. a lot. you live and you learn. and when you start to think too hard about that embarrassing thing that happened and how you wish you could change it, just tell yourself that what’s done is done. There’s no changing it, so just forget it and move on. It’s the only way to stay sane.
do the dishes before the sink grows its own ecosystem
you can’t put Dawn dishsoap in the dishwasher.
if you are the only one in the aisle at the grocery store, and you need to get from one end to the other without even looking at anything in that aisle, then you should totally cart-surf down the aisle. Growing old is mandatory. Growing up is optional. Hold on to the little things. They make all the difference.
never try to make cake from scratch at 3am. You end up with a topographical map of Middle Earth.
the best way to get money for food is to tell your grandparents about how you basically live on microwaved mac and cheese. Their horror may result in twenty bucks and orders to go out and get yourself “a real dinner”.
sometimes life sucks, and knowing that it might get better doesn’t always make it suck any less, but you’ll never get to the non-sucky days without enduring the suckiness.
no seriously, NEVER put Dawn in your dishwasher
Do not buy generic brand spaghetti sauce either.
Always check the type of light bulb that goes in lamps. A 60w is not interchangeable with a 40w.
Dollar store batteries work just as well as store brand.
Reward yourself from time to time when you do things that you needed to get done. It’s a good way to remind yourself to do them. Going out to pay a bill? Get Starbucks or something you don’t get often. Rewards don’t have to be huge, they can be small things like that.
Rice, pasta, flour, sugar, cheese, eggs, milk, a pack of chicken, a pack of frozen veggies and a well stocked spice cabinet go a long way food-wise. Splurge and get the biggest container of rice you can. You don’t have to go back and buy it again anytime soon and it makes a TON of meals in the meantime.
Rice can be cooked on the stove. You don’t need a fancy rice cooker. Two parts water to every one part rice (two cups water for one cup of rice for example). Get your water boiling, add rice, put a plate or lid on it, put it on low for 20 minutes. It should be done.
Keep a calendar on your pc of bill due dates. If your bills are set up at inconvenient times, like all of the services started on the first or something, then call up the company and find out if you can get your billing date switched to something more manageable. A lot of places do try to work with you.
There is no shame in calling a company and asking for an extension on a bill. Let them know what you can pay, pay that amount, and they arrange when the rest of the payment is required. This can stop you from having services shut off man. It shows responsibility on your part.
Take time to eat, even when you don’t feel like eating. Your body needs energy to live.
Wash or rinse your dishes before putting them in the dishwasher. It prevents gross caked on junk.
“The Works” is an excellent cheap toilet cleaner.
MAGIC. FUCKING. ERASERS. THEY WORK ON EVERYTHING JUST DON’T SCRUB HARD. I took the ring out of our bathtub with one. Also generic ones work just as well.
Keep some bleach around but if you use it for cleaning? Dillute it. There’s rarely ever a case where you need to pout straight bleach on anything. A cap full or two in a bucket of water works just fine.
DO NOT MIX CLEANERS. Chemical reactions are can be very dangerous. Here’s a good list. (Note that vinegar and baking soda can actually be a good combo for removing smells from things but it’s not very good at actually -cleaning-.)
If you drink? Don’t take meds at the same time it’s just not good.
Make sure you check the dosages on your pill bottles. No one wants to accidentally overdose on cough syrup or ibuprofen.
If you have a uterus make sure you have a heating pad and ibuprofen on hand for the pain. Hot baths also generally help and Ginger Tea is excellent for any nausea.
Buy a first aid kit. It’s worth it in the long run.
You can often do your taxes online at places like TurboTax.
Petroleum jelly (aka Vaseline) is good for chapped lips and you can get a decent sized tube or tub of it (generic brand version) for cheaper/same price as Chapstick.
KEEP TRIPLE ANTIBIOTIC OINTMENT IN YOUR HOUSE FOR CUTS AND SCRAPES AND SORES.
Over the counter medications (stuff you can buy right off the shelf no prescription needed) have a name brand and a generic name. ALWAYS buy generic if it’s available it is literally the same thing and way cheaper usually.
Some names to remember when you’re looking for meds!
Acetaminophen = Tylenol
Used to treat pain and reduce fever. Do not take with Ibuprofen.
Ibuprofen = Advil, Midol, Motrin
Used for pain and fever, is an anti-inflammtory. Is good for period cramps because it is an NSAID (non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drug).
Naproxen = Aleve, Naprosyn
Treats fever, pain, arthritis pain, gout, period cramps, tendinitis, headache, backache, and toothache. Is also an NSAID.
Acetaminophen + Asprin + Caffeine = Excedrin
Usually marketed as “Migraine Relief” as a generic.
Asprin = Bayer
Use for pain, fever, arthritis, and inflammation. Makes you bleed easily so should not be used for periods. Might reduce risk of heart attacks.\
Triple Antibiotic Ointment = Neosporin
Used on cuts, sores, and scrapes to reduce risk of infection and promote healing.
Also a general mutli-vitamin isn’t a bad idea and if you don’t get a lot of fruits or milk/sunshine in your diet you might want to get vitamins C and D specifically for daily use.
if you do accidentally lapse and put dawn in your dishwasher, run it empty and put hair conditioner where the detergent goes. that’ll clean it out (tip given to me by dorm custodian when roommate did the thing).
if you live off ramen, add stuff to it! add veggies you like, don’t use the whole flavor packet to cut down on sodium and msg or don’t use it at all and add your own spices.
if you’re making something with potatoes in it (beans, stew) potatoes are done when you can easily stab a fork through them.
you can microwave a hotdog as long as you put it in a microwave safe container of water. microwaves work by making water molecules vibrate. also, when reheating rice leftovers, add a small amount of water, like maybe a spoonfull, so it doesn’t get hard and crunchy.
the rice cooking advice above is for long grain rice. if you’re making short or medium grain rice, a 1:1 ratio (one cup water for one cup rice) is better, so the rice doesn’t come out too mushy.
buy a few cans of chicken. wholesale club stores like sam’s, costco, or bj’s tend to carry multipacks for a good price. they’re incredibly useful for when you forget to defrost meat.
buy meat on sale and put it in the freezer. buy vegetables on sale, and put them in the freezer. frozen veggies are often as flavorful and good as fresh ones, keep longer, and often come in microwaveable bags or with microwave directions.
soak ink stains in milk to help get them out or at least lighten them.
soak blood stains in water as soon as possible, with a bit of detergent or stain remover. scrub at them. use cold water, heat binds proteins to fabric. tbh, there’s no real need to change the washer from cold-cold setting unless the thing you’re washing says to wash in warm water.
acetone, found in most nail polish removers, dissolves super glue.
YOU’RE ALL DOING GOD’S WORK BLESS YOU
Takes pictures, have prints made and put them in photo albums. Be IN the pictures, have someone take pictures of you and your friends. Get over not looking perfect in thw picture. Someday that friend might be gone and those pictures might be all you’ll have, you will want to be in them. I made that mistake with my best friend, i always felt weird asking for a picture together… he died of cancer January of 2014 and now i have no pictures of us together. Its my only regret in life.
This is really helpful, thank you all!
I’m the newest of new adults but I’m gonna throw these little tips in there. IF YOU HAVE AN OLD CAR:
-coolant or water if your car overheats (coolant is preferable cause it won’t hurt the engine in the long run but hey i know money is tight)
-flashlight in case you break down at night and need to check under the hood and your phone is dead
-jumper cables.you will at some point leave your lights on. you just will.
AAA or any other road side service is never a bad investment i swear. (try to mooch it off your parents as long as you can though)
Know how to change a tire. You’re going to need to do it at some point in time and you can’t always rely on someone else to do it for you.
Don’t be afraid to go to your local food bank. They are there for a reason.
Don’t be ashamed to ask for help period. Life is hard, everyone needs help occasionally.
You can put a LOWER wattage bulb in a lamp that says it’s for a higher one, but don’t put a HIGHER wattage bulb in. Also, watts refer to the amount of electricity used. LUMENS refers to the amount of light put out, and can vary quite a bit between brands, even though the wattage is the same. Look for the one with the highest lumens unless you actually want a slightly dimmer bulb in a certain location.
Those dollar store batteries? Fine if they’re alkaline. “Heavy-duty” batteries, however, won’t last nearly as long.
You can microwave a hot dog and bun simply by wrapping them in a toweling for a minute, less if you don’t want them scalding hot.
Reblogging to save lives.
Two adulting (kitchen-related) tips from me!
1. Buy a roll of parchment paper from the cooking shit aisle. A big roll will last you for-fucking-ever. Pretty much any time you’re using a baking pan you can line it with that stuff and save yourself A: food sticking to the pan and B: it’s a quick rinse and it’s clean.
2. Bread can get fucking expensive, so make your own. A bigass bag of flour and a bag of active dry yeast (store it in the friiiiidge!!!) works out a FUCK of a lot cheaper than buying bread at the store, and you can do so much more with it. Bread, pizza, rolls, cinnibuns, homemade pizza pockets. It seems intimidating but it’s stupid easy.
Seriously. It’s stupid simple to make, and most of the “3 hours” to make it is sitting around surfing the internet or doing whatever the fuck you want while the dough rises. If you have an afternoon free once a week to sit and play video games or surf the net, you have the time to make your own bread on the cheap. Here’s my simple-as-fuck recipe:
2 ¼ teaspoons active dry yeast (You can buy a bag of this stuff CHEAP in bulk stores, the little packets are hella stupid priced) 1 cup warm water (think a hot bath) 1 ½ teaspoons sugar 2 tablespoons oil (any kind works for the most part) 2 ¼ cups flour 1 teaspoon salt
1. Stir the yeast, water, sugar, and oil up in a bowl. Let it sit for about 10 minutes. It will foam up VERY high, this is the yeast getting happy! If it doesn’t get all foamy, the water may have been too hot or not hot enough. Remember, Yeast is alive! Treat it like a nice girlfriend!
2. Mix your flour, salt, and the yeast concoction up in a bowl.
3. Knead that shit for about 5 minutes. It will start sticky as heck, but will come together into a nice dough. If it’s still super sticky, toss in a bit more flour. Here’s how to knead it:
4. Put your dough in a covered, lightly oiled bowl and leave it someplace warmish for an hour. At that point it will have roughly doubled in size, give it a gentle punch to release the gasses that have built up inside. Cover it again and let it sit for a bit longer.
Boom. You have bread dough. Here are some baking times and uses for ya:
Optional egg-wash: Just crack an egg into a bowl, add a pinch of salt, and mix the bejeebus out of it with a fork. Brush (or if you’re like me, goop it on with said fork) that shit thinly on bread before baking for a nice crust.
Pizza: Stretch it on a pan, stab the fucker all over with a fork, add toppings, bake 425*F 15-20 minutes.
Bread Sticks: Make snake-shapes, let rest on pan 10-ish minutes, bake 400*F 10-20 minutes.
Dinner rolls: Make ball-sized (yes those balls) balls. Place on greased pan, let rest 10-20 minutes to rise. Egg-wash and bake 375*F 25 minutes.
Bread: Lightly score (cut) the top, let sit for 20-ish minutes on/in whatever you’re using to bake it, egg-wash, bake at 375*F for 20-ish minutes. It’s done when it sounds hollow if you knock on the bottom.
You bet your ass you can deep-fry this shit for cheapie yeast doughnuts. Roll that shit in sugar or dip it in whatever, it’s fucking tasty.
Bagels: YES. YOU. CAN. Form bagel-shapes out of the dough and boil them in salty water for about 2 minutes. Egg-wash them and bake them at 400*F for 10 minutes.
Cinnamon Rolls: Roll that shit out into a rectangle. Brush it with a mix of butter, cinnamon, sugar, and a pinch of salt (no exact amounts here, do it to your taste). Roll it up into a log, and cut it into discs. Let them sit 20 minutes in a pan and then bake at 375*F 15-17 minutes.
You can add whatever you want to the dough for some variety, just if it’s dried spices remember you really only need 1-ish tablespoons. I personally like making bread with about 1 tablespoon of dill in the dough. Roll it out flat, sprinkle it with cheddar, roll it into a log, squeeze the ends shut, and bake it like a regular loaf of bread. Cheesy dill bread OMNOMNOM.
*ahem* That got a bit long. But yeah. Bread’s expensive, yo. Save your wallet.
(Also it’s ridiculous amounts of therapeutic to bake, for me anyway)
Being able to bake your own bread is pretty awesome, if you got the time for it.
Reblogging in case of independence
• Look by the dumpster for furniture. A shelf is a shelf is a shelf. Use paint and glue and feel free to chop off pieces that don’t help. Reusing everything from picture frames to old records to make your space feel personal is a huge stress reliever.
• Conversely, throw stuff out! When you attach emotion to something cheap that fits awkwardly in your home, it will take up space in a stressful way for years even if you don’t recognize it as stress. Clearing out clothes, furniture, wall hangings, dishes, and books/movies/music that you don’t really use any more makes EVERYTHING better. And the cycle continues when someone breathes new life into your things when they pick them up at Goodwill or the dumpster. It’s beautiful.
• There are usually websites if you live in a city that catalogue free things to do. Do a lot of them. You’ll be surprised at how much fun you can squeeze out of zero dollars, and you’ll be doubly surprised at how fun some boring-sounding things actually are.
• It’s tough sometimes, but a roommate will help you save SO much money. Living alone in 2016 is a luxury hardly any of us can afford.
• On the point above, I’m about to turn 32 and I have a decent 9-5 job. Just got a new roommate so I can actually save $ for the first time in a long time. Being an adult is all about realizing that you don’t turn into one the moment you turn a certain age. It’s about a 40 year process. You’re officially a past-the-point-of-no-return adult when you retire… I’m guessing.
• This is anti-theme advice, but it’s a principle for me. Go out less and tip more. Start at 20%. It’s not easy to afford, but the servers and bartenders are almost all guaranteed to be in the same just-getting-by situation as you. Can’t tip well? don’t order that extra shot. (tipping as a system needs to go away, but until all employers pay a living wage…)
• Piggy backing on the above point, saying “I can’t afford to go out tonight.” to your friends is the hardest thing to do. Do it. They can’t afford to go out either.
• If you have to party, but you’re feeling the pinch, liquor store run + hanging at home = 75% less than the cost of going out. “Hey, want to meet me at [bar]?” “Let’s play Balderdash at my place instead. Can you throw in $5 on beer?”
• Buy at least 3 board games from the thrift store. A deck of cards and maybe 2-5 dice are good to have on hand too.
• This is the most difficult one, but in a few years you’ll realize it’s very very true: Buy a small amount of nice things. You pay more up front, but you’re not replacing those things annually or even more frequently. Jeans, a cast iron skillet, a good pair of boots, all these things cost twice as much as the cheap version but will last four to ten times as long.
• You’ll always be pouring money into your car if you have one. Budget for your car. It will always surprise you how often you have to put money into your car.
• Able to bike? Try it out! Bikes are like roommates. They make life harder and easier. In the long run it’s worth it.
• Required tools: hammer, 2+ good screwdrivers, wire-cutters, pliers, tape-measure, super glue, a little duct/masking/packing tape, scissors. Have a small toolbox or toolbag to keep it all together. Screws and nails will accumulate as you go. Don’t feel like you have to keep the manuals and the extra wall brackets from your assemble-it-yourself furniture or a TV or anything, they just make your tools a mess. YOU DON’T NEED A SAW. All a saw does is make your toolbox hard to close. Do you have a work bench? No? You don’t need a saw. A drill is convenient, but borrowable. You’ll use it less than once a year.
• White Rain shampoo, conditioner and body wash isn’t tested on animals, and it’s cheap AF.
In his year overseeing personnel policy at the Pentagon, Brad Carson helped open all combat jobs to women, expanded maternity leave to 12 weeks and pushed to open the door for transgender troops — and he had grander ambitions to make the military’s culture more “compatible with the ambitions of the millennial generation.”
But the former Democratic congressman and Iraq War veteran ran into a buzz saw of opposition, both inside the Pentagon and on Capitol Hill. He stepped down this month as the Pentagon’s acting personnel chief following a combative confirmation hearing, in which Republican Sen. Jim Inhofe — a former Oklahoma political rival — stunned him with anonymous and unsubstantiated allegations that he fostered a “hostile work environment.”
Inhofe has not publicly provided any evidence to back up his accusations against Carson, who clashed with the senator when both represented Oklahoma in Congress.
Carson’s rise and fall highlight the difficulties of trying to reform a bureaucracy that has powerful allies on the Hill and is notoriously resistant to change —especially the far-reaching overhaul Carson wanted to accomplish in the military’s recruiting and retention policies.
However, since female athletes in the 1930s were regarded as highly as communist Irish atheists, there were almost no outlets for female sports, forcing Didrikson to take up one of the few socially acceptable sports for females – golf.
I keep seeing this fucking argument about trans people using bathrooms like “Well if that had been an option for me back in the day I totally would’ve signed up as a ‘trans-whatever’ to get into the girls’ locker room back in high school” (Yeah, the fuckwit on FB I saw earlier actually said ‘trans-whatever’).
Like, you really, genuinely think that you, as a 16 year old presumably straight teenage boy would have changed your name, requested everyone you know call you by different pronouns, changed your entire wardrobe and look, went to school presenting yourself as a girl, dealt with the bullshit you would likely have gotten from your parents, family, friends, classmates, teachers, doctors, neighbors, people on the street, and rearranged your entire life…
Because you maybe, might have possibly caught a glimpse of a titty in the locker room?
Yeah, it’s clearly the trans people we should be worried about.
I always find it interesting that they seem to think that declaring “Given the opportunity I absolutely would have been a sexual predator” is a defense of their position.
I always find it interesting that they seem to think that declaring “Given the opportunity I absolutely would have been a sexual predator” is a defense of their position.
I am just going to save this, modify pronouns as needed, and use it as a response to this. Forever.
The Democratic National Committee will file a joint lawsuit in district court in Arizona on Friday over allegations of voter disenfranchisement and voting irregularities stemming from the state’s March 22 primary.
The DNC will file the suit in federal court along with the Democratic Senatorial Campaign Committee, the state Democratic Party, Rep. Ann Kirkpatrick’s Senate campaign and primary voters.
The lawsuit, which will name Arizona Secretary of State Michele Reagan, the Maricopa County Board of Supervisors and Maricopa County RecorderHelen Purcell as defendants, alleges that action taken by election officials is responsible for voters waiting up to five hours in line at polling precincts and that the state arbitrarily rejected provisional ballots, mainly from Hispanic voters.
Her other thoughts on this are great as well. But it is in relation to impact. Laura Jane Grace can make more of an impact on the state by being there. Ringo and Bruce Springsteen can make more of an impact by boycotting. She supports both. AND YOU SHOULD TOO! LET NC KNOW!
Paul Feig and Judd Apatow’s short-lived series didn’t just wallow in despair or paint a portrait of youth as pure depression. It also took the time to illustrate the minor joys and victories amid the daily malaise. These brief, cathartic moments don’t exist merely to provide the audience with warm, fuzzy feelings, but to demonstrate the importance of small pleasures in an otherwise cruel, unfair world. While there are plenty of prime examples spread out over the course of the series, one stands above the rest. It’s arguably the most powerful scene in the entire show and it’s only 90 seconds long.
Paris Jackson, the 18-year-old daughter of the late Michael Jackson, appears to be getting serious with boyfriend Michael Snoddy, a 26-year-old drummer who languishes in the shameful condition of having a Confederate flag tattooed on his forearm.
But let us judge Paris Jackson’s new boyfriend not merely by his Confederate flag tattoo, but according to the content of his dumb explanation to Page Six for why he got such an offensive tattoo in the first place. For though we must not let this bigoted tattoo on Snoddy’s skin blind us to the true moron that he is inside.
“Anyone that knows me personally knows that I have love for all people. I don’t care if you’re [bleeping] purple,” Snoddy told Page Six, exercising his God-given right to defend his own terrible decision to make the most succinct symbol of American institutional racism a permanent part of his body prior to dating the heir to a Motown fortune. “If you conduct yourself as a human being, you are to be treated as such.”
Indeed, it is on the equality of all human beings—minus those that the Confederacy fought and died to keep in bondage due precisely to their skin color—that this great nation was founded.
“I am from the South,” explains Snoddy. “I know that we don’t have the best history, but no matter where you are from or what skin you are in, be proud of who you are and where you came from.”
Yes, it is true: We Americans share a troubled history. And yet, surely we as a nation have it within ourselves to overcome our differences, that we might live in harmonious agreement that Snoddy is an idiot on the inside, where it really counts.